You might have noticed a slight buzz–perhaps just a hum–around the blogosophere about the documentary that was recently released on Netflix, Happy. The documentary explores the philosophies on happiness of people around the world, exploring close multi-family living quarters in Denmark, close social rituals of the largest group of centenarians, the Okinawans, and karoshi in Japan, which translates to death by overwork. I can’t say I’m unique in feeling motivated by the film to make small changes in my life, but I can make my own effort to inspire myself through accountability.. and to inspire you to perhaps join me in this effort.
A few days after watching the documentary, I noticed when talking to an old friend about O, I gushed about him, like I thought he was the greatest man alive. Why? Because I do think he’s the greatest man alive.
But when he came home and clanged a dish too hard (while doing them. I’m not kidding), I huffed loudly and asked him what in the world he was doing and haven’t you learned to do dishes by now?! To be fair, much of this anger and tense attitude was later attributed to my body’s reaction to the birth control I was taking, a nightmare which I’ll revisit at a later date.
Yet how often do we find ourselves treating the man closest to us with the most impatience, irritation, and mocking condescension?
So I present to you
Challenge #1: Treat Him Like You Talk About Him
For a week, I’ll make a valiant, active, accountable effort to treat O exactly how I talk about him. Of course, I can’t gush and fawn over him 24/7 in a domestic setting, but what about a little understanding when he gets the floor soaking wet after a shower or spills chilaquiles all over the tablecloth?
I ask you to do the same. Before you get irritated that he loaded the dishwasher wrong or bought wheat bread when you clearly said white bread, pause. Think about how you’d describe him to your ex. Then go again.
Come back after a week of this. We’ll discuss our findings and progress to level 2. How does that sound?
OK, team. Break!